Why you shouldn’t be embarrassed to own a vibrator

I’ve owned a vibrator for a few years now and have always been very open about it with my friends. It’s a cute little thing that looks a bit like a lipstick, so it’s nice and discrete if anyone rummages through my room. I have never felt judged for openly owning a vibrator, but even when among friends there is always a slight awkwardness that arises when the topic of masturbation is brought up.

Girls in their late teens and twenties are always willing to discuss their sex lives and relationships with friends, but masturbation or solo sex is not something that is often admitted to. The topic of female masturbation is being talked about increasingly more by writers such as Caitlin Moran and Lane Moore, which helps it become a normalized subject and less shocking.

Everyone knows that guys masturbate regularly but it’s often seen as uncomfortable when girls admit they do too. Female masturbation is treated as a bit of a guilty secret and misunderstood, when actually it is one of the best ways to reach a better understanding of your own body and what makes you climax. Many women can find it difficult to reach this point with a partner because of overthinking things or worrying if they look sexy enough, but masturbating allows for you to forget about anyone else and just become in tune with your own body.

Orgasms can vary in degree and unfortunately do not happen on cue, so solo sex gives you the time and space to figure out what you like without the pressure of having to produce a screaming orgasm to reassure your partner how great they are. I’m definitely not saying that we should ditch men altogether, just that masturbating improves self love and understanding in a way that results in sex with a partner being all the more enhanced and orgasmic.

So now we have established that masturbation is great, the question is how to go about it. Sometimes using your own finger just doesn’t quite do the trick, and that’s when a vibrator can take things to a whole new level. The problem that many girls have is that they feel too embarrassed to actually go and buy a vibrator or even order one online. Why? There is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about, anyway ordering online mean you don’t even have to publicly go into the shop. The best vibrator to start with is the simple and small bullet vibrator from Ann Summers, it’s nothing too intense and even comes in a range of colours. The question should not be do you have a vibrator but which one do you have?