Can anyone explain why guys expect a blowjob every time you have sex?

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Can anyone explain why guys expect a blowjob every time you have sex?

I’m not bitter just salty

Forgive me for the crude nature of what you are about to read

Oh cock, glorious cock, how you stand to attention at the kiss of my lips, as you wink at me in your upright position. I can’t help but faun at the desire you bestow unto me. How I beg to be on my knees in front of you. For men to stand outside my window yelling those three little words: “Suck my dick!” Yes, yes I will! Jokes! Had you going there didn’t I.

Men need to stop expecting blowjobs. I won’t be the only girl who has felt the tug on their arm, the pat of their head. The indiscreet desire of a man as he begs you to submit your strongest muscle to his weakest. But enough is enough. It’s not a matter of no means no, or at least it shouldn’t be. Sucking someone off should be a choice, not part and parcel of every sexual encounter you have.

It’s not that we don’t know ‘how’ to suck a cock. It’s more, what have you done to deserve such a treat? The problem isn’t that women won’t give blowjobs. The problem is that men just expect them, and if you don’t give one, they expect it from someone else. And honestly, if a man was queuing up to eat my peach, then that might sweeten the deal. But it doesn’t seem to work like that: ‘that’s a relationship thing’.

Men, or I should say boys, feel this need to direct their partner’s head down towards their groin as if they’d get lost along the way. Barely acknowledging the quite simple fact that they might not want to suck their cock. And if they did, then it would be their decision.

It should be a decision made in someone’s own time. That should be all that needs to be said, but a lot of men still don’t get it. And, gosh forbid, the partner denied the gentleman their request only to end the night assuring them of their ego and that ‘it’s not them, it’s me’. Ridiculous. Boys listen:

If someone wants to suck your cock, they will. We know you want it. Please stop asking for it. Seriously, it’s laughable.

Bitterness aside, it’s just sad to hear the same thing from my girlfriends:

“He just whipped it out. I didn’t know what to do.”

“I got cramp from his hand pushing on my head.”

“Will he still love me if I don’t?”

You can imagine the situation. Where making out suddenly isn’t making out. But ladies we have the power here. We shouldn’t be saying: “Keep your self respect. Don’t let him coax you into doing anything you don’t want to. And if you did, fuck it, nevermind.”

Where is his respect? If a girl stood outside their window yelling “Lick my pussy” they’d think she was a skank. So why do we put up with the same behaviour? I refer back to this because that is what the last guy I dated did. So I’m going to tell you what I told him: “If I want to suck your cock, it is because I want to.”

Not because it’s a birthday thing, or something for the ominous steak and blowjob day, but because I want to. This shouldn’t be the turning point in a relationship, a peak we have to overcome. It should just be accepted that sometimes you have to wait and be patient and respect your partner – rather than tugging them on the arm, or patting their head.

So please could we just stop the blowjob tug-of-war?