Your definitive guide to eye fucking guys at a bar

Eye fucking is the act of initiating a verbal conversation with a guy you find attractive simply by staring at him in a calculated manner. If done right, this combination of an art form and highly manipulative act can result in an exchange of numbers, a date or a one night stand.

Since waiting for a guy to come introduce himself is overrated and boring, it’s time to take matters into your own hands. This is how to eye fuck a guy in a bar, a club, or anywhere really.

Master the stare and delayed look away

This technique should be practiced and perfected in front of a well-lit bathroom mirror with a glass of wine or alcoholic beverage of your choice in hand.

The aim is simple: eye fuck yourself.

Your biggest asset during your eye fuck (apart from your great personality and banging cleavage) is the stare and delayed look away.

Literally all you have to do is manage to look fun, sultry, desirable and cute as you look away from a guy’s glare in one continuous slow motion movement. Trust me with the alcohol on this one, it helps.

Try this on yourself before moving onto a stranger. The eye fuck will be fully perfected once used on a potential suitor in a real-life setting.

Find a target to eye fuck

This one’s completely up to you and what your chosen location has to offer. You’ll ideally want to be at a maximum of 15-20ft away from your target for the best results.

Stare at him with your good side

It’s the side you always angle to when posing in photos. It will also be the one you’re most confident in. Use it to your advantage.

Staring doesn’t mean stopping whatever else you were doing, it just means multitasking

Keep sipping your drink, keep dancing, try and keep a conversation with friends etc — just do it while also looking a stranger across the room in the eye.

As soon as he makes eye contact, use the delayed look away you’ve practiced

This is your moment. Do not choke.

Ignore his stare while you take a sip of your drink

Leave him looking at you, wondering if you meant to catch his eye or not. Continue to enjoy your night with your friends.

A few minutes after he stops looking at you, start staring at him again

If your peripheral vision isn’t enough to tell you he’s not looking, get a friend to keep you updated. The few minutes in between are to leave him wondering who you are.

As soon as he makes eye contact again, use your delayed look away, but this time add a slight smirk

It will be a subtle way of letting him know you’ve acknowledged his presence in the room.

Ignore his stare while you laugh at a joke your friend made

Even if they didn’t make one, use this opportunity to flash a smile (it’s fine when girls advise each other to smile in situations like these).

Leaving a shorter amount of time between him looking away and you looking back, start staring at him again

You know what to do.

The third time he makes eye contact, maintain it for a second while you sip your drink and then use the delayed look away

One. Second. That’s all it takes. It’s your way of letting him know you’re here to play.

Ignore his stare while you dance with your friends

Put your hands up in the air like you just don’t care. Or don’t. Do you.

Leaving only a maximum of 30 seconds between him looking away and you looking back, start staring at him again

It’s crunch time and you mean business.

As soon as he makes eye contact, maintain it while smiling for three seconds, then use the delayed look away

You’ve played your final card. You’ve used all the tricks in the book. You have done well. This just leaves the moment of truth.

Ignore him for at least five minutes

Don’t even look his way. Make him wonder why you’ve suddenly started ignoring him. Drink, dance, laugh, act like he doesn’t even exist. Heck, even go for a bathroom break.

Look at us ignoring everyone

After a respectable amount of time, stare at him one last time

Now is when you’re left with two possibilities: He’s in or he’s out.

If he looks back at you: Smile and wave

He’ll probably come over at this point, but you’ve started this, don’t hesitate to go over and introduce yourself.

If he doesn’t look back: Onto the next target

He probably wouldn’t have been worth it anyway and you still have alcohol.

@elenimitzali