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A passionate defense of Phubbing — the ‘problematic’ dating trend we’re entirely obsessed with
Try again when you’re more interesting
If “phubbing” means ignoring people on dates while engaging in more important, self-fulfilling activities like tweeting every undeniably humorous thought of ours, or Instagram-stalking our friend’s ex’s sister’s boyfriend, then slap a name tag on and call me a phubber.
Some things just need to take priority in this fleeting lifetime of ours.
phub·bing (ˈfəbiNG/) noun, informal: Ignoring one’s companion in order to pay attention to one’s phone. Understanding how valuable our time is, and multitasking as a means of getting something useful out of the minutes we’re wasting.
In an anti-phubbing article published in the NY Times, the author writes, “When one partner constantly checks his or her phone it sends an implicit message that they find the phone (or what’s on it) more interesting than you,” and I just want them to understand that not only do I agree, but I agree wholeheartedly.
Trust me when I say I think we can manage scrolling through our Facebook feed while still giving our date’s story about how they can “butt-chug an entire bottle of Moscato in under three seconds” all the attention it’ll ever need. Really.
Phubbing isn’t about being rude — it’s about learning to respect yourself enough that you don’t keep pretending to have a good time on a shit date. Plus, women are incredible at multitasking.
Don’t laugh if they’re not being funny, don’t wait on them if they’re not committing, and don’t hold back from phubbing them when they have nothing more interesting to say.