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Some people actually think it’s OK to continue having sex with someone after they withdraw consent
‘Don’t give consent in the first place’
A 19-year-old student at North Carolina State University revoked her consent during sex after it became violent. When she tried to press charges against her rapist, her case was dismissed because of a law which states consent cannot be withdrawn after it is initially given.
Aaliyah Palmer’s rapist and the state of North Carolina fall within the five percent of men and less than two percent of women who believe continuing to engage in sexual activity after consent is revoked is not sexual assault.
babe recently conducted a survey about sex and consent where we ask both men and women if they considered “continuing to have sex with someone when consent was initially given but then withdrawn” sexual assault. Of the 2,555 surveyed, 315 were men.
Results show that five percent of men don’t think it’s sexual assault to continue having sex with someone if they revoke consent, compared with less than two percent of women.
In light of the recent news, it’s frightening to think there are some people who actually think this is OK.
One Twitter user explained her personal experience with men reacting to the North Carolina law in a frightening manner.
I just overheard a conversation where a woman brought up the NC law banning us from backing out of sex and we shared our outrage/disgust.
— Tiffany Flowers (@MsFlowersTweets) June 22, 2017
She said a man laughed at the woman who brought up the law
A man chimed in and asked her to repeat the info about women being banned from "backing out" of sexual intercourse. She did. He laughed.
— Tiffany Flowers (@MsFlowersTweets) June 22, 2017
He then questioned why a woman would back out, saying ‘you better not try that with me’
He went on to say "why would a woman back out? You better not try that with me"
— Tiffany Flowers (@MsFlowersTweets) June 22, 2017
Another man chimed in saying ‘Once I’m in, I’m in’
Another man said "ain't no backing out. Once I'm in, I'm in."
— Tiffany Flowers (@MsFlowersTweets) June 22, 2017
He finished with ‘It shows a total lack of commitment on the women’s part’
The icing on the cake was "It shows a total lack of commitment on the woman's part!" Which was met with roaring laughter.
— Tiffany Flowers (@MsFlowersTweets) June 22, 2017
This thread isn’t an isolated experience. There are actually a multitude of men who have taken to Twitter to support the right to continue sex after consent has been revoked.
This is what they’re saying:
Don’t give consent in the first place
Don't give consent in the first place
— Devin (@_MOUF_) June 23, 2017
Why give consent then take it away?
— Tony Joyner (@LilTones) June 23, 2017
Blue balls are as bad as being raped
And leave us with blue balls. God bless America
— ⁶? (@Nasir6Raps) June 24, 2017
If it were me i wouldnt listen to that crap withdra before i come ,no ways!
— Bernard (@Bernard98282263) June 24, 2017
Agreed. Nothing like a good pair of blue balls. But you are correct. Guy will probably not talk to you ever again.
— Deplorable David (@DmcpartlDavid) June 26, 2017
It’s not fair, because she probably already came
A woman would have cum more than 20times very unfair indeed!
— Bernard (@Bernard98282263) June 24, 2017
So it's ok for a woman to get hers but if a man hasn't came yet it's not her problem? I think this law is fuckdupbutcome on, cum togetherlol
— Bryan (@bryan4u42201) June 23, 2017
Withdrawing consent is just crying rape
Obviously men should respect their partners but the notion that a woman can cry rape at any moment during the act is lame
— Götz Von Berlichinge (@SchwarzeTeufe) June 25, 2017
The truly frightening part of all this is if there are this many men willingly to support this law on a public platform, how many would support it in private?