Women are more anti-commitment than ever, picking lots of sex over love

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Women are more anti-commitment than ever, picking lots of sex over love

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For some reason, whenever we talk about commitment phobes, we do so in reference to men we've deemed undatable or incapable of change.

One Google search unveils article after article of eight signs he's a commitment phobe, everything to know before falling for a commitment phobe and my personal favorite, how to make a commitment phobe commit.

There's not one thing on this Earth guys pretend to be afraid of more than the "What are we?" talk, but they're always the same guys who message us on the DL to ask about their star sign compatibility with their girlfriends.

And that's why I know it's us. We are the commitment phobes we've been reading about.

Guys get way too much credit for leading free, adventurous lives and being afraid to settle down. We're making them sound so much cooler than they actually are.

Think of your friends. In many cases, it's probably your girlfriends who are too busy working or out making plans to be worried about settling down and missing out on their chance to do something exceptional.

Sure, we all get crushes, but those are unavoidable.

And it's not that you can't be simultaneously successful and in a relationship, but the sooner you settle with someone, the sooner you might move in with one another, the sooner you might have kids, the sooner you might have more things rooting you to a specific place than just him.

Meagan, 23, said she thinks it's the idea of "other possibilities" out there that keeps her from committing.

"Sometimes I have the opportunity to get into a relationship and then think about all the freedom I'm forfeiting by doing so. Plus, what if there's someone better suited to me?"

There are upwards of 57 million single women currently living in America, so it's safe to say these single women are a far cry from the sad spinster stereotype.

And can we really even call it a phobia if we're happy? Guys aren't the only ones who get to enjoy being free and single anymore, because you know what? We're afraid of commitment, too.

@carolinephinney