Here’s how to make money from phone sex, according to a professional

You're strapped for cash and have been toying with the idea of becoming a phone sex operator. It's a tricky topic for a lot of people. Babe chatted with Andrea (not her real name) about how to be a phone sex operator, how to get returning clients, and the advice she wished she had when she started.

How she started

Andrea spent a lot of time traveling for work and so she'd have phone sex with her partner. When she realized she was actually pretty good at it, she decided to see if she could do it as a way to earn some extra cash. "I was researching it online and was looking for reputable phone sex companies. NiteFlirt just kept coming up over and over again," she said.

The process itself wasn't terribly hard. Andrea filled out an application and then had to get herself verified. She sent in a copy of her driver's license, bank info, and tax forms. After she was approved, Andrea started "creating ads" about herself for the site. Those need to be checked for "certain buzzwords" and it took about three days. She was up and running once her ads were live. Now she says she makes between $800 -$2000 a week.

How to get returning clients

A major part of the phone sex business is returning clients. A lot of operators make their money by talking with the same men pretty much everyday. Andrea said the key to starting a return relationship was to "not harass your clients."

"Don’t be like, 'call me again, call me again, call me again,'” she said. Wait a while after the first call ends. Andea prefers to check in later via message that's something like: "Thank you for the call. Call me anytime. I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did.” That personal touch puts the idea in the guy's head to call again.

Andrea revealed that personality can be the key to getting that second call because it's all about that connection. "Most guys find their favorite and stick to them because you learn about each other," she told babe.

The initial call can take some time because the operator has to figure out what the caller is into. "Usually if a guy calls me with a certain kink and the first call is feeling it out," Andrea said. "I’ll research into it more so I can learn what exactly it is or I’ll ask them, 'what about this turns you on?' I can learn and then the next call will be more intense. You keep going from there."

How honest should you be?

There's definitely a delicate balance between being yourself while protecting yourself. Andrea admitted she tends to reveal bits about herself because it gets confusing to keep up with lying, especially if you have returning clients. "If they ask me what I do, I’ll tell them a broad range of what I do," she said. "If they ask me where I live, I’ll say on the east coast. I don’t really specify anything more than that. I try to be honest to a point, explain who I am to a point, but not reveal anything more."

Andrea told babe she likes to be herself as much as possible, but still "guard" herself because "you don’t know who you’re talking to." Letting the wrong piece of information loose could be really dangerous. Andrea said a guy could be obsessed and fishing for personal information or trying to scam you to get access to your bank account.

How far should you go?

Like the honesty thing, Andrea recommended sticking close to who you are and what works for you. She said she didn't have a problem leading guys away from a kink she's not into. "I’ll be upfront if it’s something that’s too taboo or something that I’m not turned on by at all. I’ll express that it’s not really my area of expertise," she told us.

If you feel like things are going too far, then pump the breaks. Andrea revealed that she developed a complicated relationship with the first caller she ever got. "I received a call from a gentleman who called me everyday, several times a day. We got really close like I knew about his family, where he lives, and he really started to care for me," she said. "That’s when we kind of had to call it quits because it became too…I don’t know. It became too comfortable."

It got to the point where she pretty much broke up with him in the hopes he'd be with his family more. She told him, "You have a real life wife and real life children. You need to spend more of your time with them.” Andrea revealed he still calls "to check in" occasionally, but things have definitely cooled down.

Should you have a script?

Andrea revealed she avoids having a routine when she's on a call. "Usually I’ll ask the guy what they’re doing, play with them and it goes from there. I don’t really have a set script," she said. The conversation tends to "flow more naturally" when you're talking "with them and not at them."

Advice for a new operator

There's tons of things that Andrea loves about being a phone sex operator like meeting new people and exploring different kinks, but there's one thing she wished someone told her when she started. "There’s going to be busy days and not so busy days," she said. Nothing is reliable in the business and pay won't be steady.

"It’s hit or miss," Andrea told us. "It all depends on the guys pay schedule too. Some guys are paycheck to paycheck. They may only call you once every two weeks. You just have to play it by ear and figure out when your good weeks are going to be."