How to have maddeningly good phone sex like a pro

If you've been in a long distance relationship, the possibility of having phone will have definitely crossed your mind. But how to have phone sex? We spoke to Andrea, a woman who makes over $1000 a week talking dirty, for her top tips.

Don't forget you know this person

Maybe it's the whole not-seeing-the-other-person thing, but there's definitely something about phone sex that makes some people nervous. If you're thinking about getting frisky on the phone with your partner, then remember that you actually know what this person likes. "When you’re romantically involved, you know what turns them on," Andrea said. Just think back to the best sex you ever had together for inspiration.

Use it as an opportunity to explore

Phone sex could be a great way to try something new. Remember, it's a fantasy situation. You might even get into a kink just because your partner likes it. By exploring their desires, "You’re finding if it actually turns you on because you’re hearing them get off" Andrea told us. "That will make it more pleasurable for you. You might actually find that you do enjoy it and you do want to try it."

Get in the mood

You can't just pick up the phone and expect to have great sex. Make yourself comfortable and get into a good headspace. Andrea admitted that she's "usually in bed" when she's getting ready to have phone sex with her partner. "I have the lights dimmed," she added. She also uses headphones so she focus on her partner's voice.

Be a dirty bird

Break out the profanity because it's one the keys to good phone sex. Obviously don't use words you're uncomfortable with and tell your partner if their language crosses a line with you.

You're basically trying to avoid being too "clinical." There's nothing sexy about saying, "Oh stick your penis in my vagina." Substitute penis with "cock" or "dick" and "breasts" or "boobs" with "tits." Get really descriptive.

You'll probably be able to tell when you're on the right track because your partner's voice will change. "I like to call it a 'sub-space,'" Andrea told us. "You can tell that what you’re saying is really doing it for them. That’s what gets me more turned on and allows me to enjoy it as well."

Don't fake it

"If they want to hear you cum, you better be touching yourself," Andrea said. Sound is more important than ever when it comes to phone sex. Breathing is another way to audibly tell your partner your into what they're saying.

The idea of phone sex is that you both get off even though you're not physically in the same space. It might be nerve-wrecking at first, but it should be "pleasurable" and "not a chore." No guy should have to ask if you came when you're on the phone, according to Andrea. "If they have to ask, you're not doing your job," she joked.