My boyfriend will only have sex with me if I dress up as his favorite hentai character

Any help on this would be great: what are you supposed to do if your boyfriend has developed a hentai obsession and will only want to do it if you're dressed up as his favorite character?

A 24-year-old woman has posted her relationship dilemma to Reddit, where she outlines her boyfriend's growing fascination with hentai.

"Whenever we have sex he asks me to dress up as so-and-so, and it seems like he is only truly excited to have sex when I do dress up this way," she writes. "He has purchased a lot of costumes for me which I rarely wear, which has led to some resentment on his end."

Problems arose as her boyfriend, 25, is a "perfectionist" when it comes to costumes. They're not "just normal skirts and tops, but also consist of wigs, makeup and circle lenses," says the woman, whose Reddit name is HelpMeSenpais. "He often wants me to dress up this way every weekend all day. It isn't comfortable for me and I also can't leave the house like this."

Little help?

Read u/HelpMeSenpais' post in full:

Over the past 3 years that we have been together, my boyfriend has become increasingly obsessed with hentai. When we first got together, he told me about his fetish and I was open to accepting it. He showed me some of the artists he was interested in, and although it's not my thing, I was supportive of his interest and have never shamed him for his kinks.

We are very open about our porn preferences in our relationship, and when we first moved in together about a year into our relationship, he was watching hentai/looking at images about 3X a week which I thought was a lot, but not over the top. Now though, I haven't seen him go a single day without looking at some sort of hentai art. He will always have a couple of browser tabs open to some images on his desktop computer, and he will also scroll through Instagram looking for his favourite artists whenever we have a bit of a break. He will even look at Instagram images on his phone while having a conversation with me! I find this incredibly rude, because sometimes he is so distracted that he doesn't answer me and it's clear that he is not really paying attention to what I am saying to him. The total amount of time I'd estimate that he's looking at these images is about 2 hours a day, more on weekends. It's hard to judge exactly because he gets notifications on his phone whenever an artist he follows uploads more media, and he will look at it throughout the day.

We have always had a pretty healthy sex life, and I'd estimate that we have sex about 3X a week. Some times it will be more, other times when we are both busy it will take a dip. Lately though his porn consumption has affected my attraction level to him. I feel like I'm not as important to him as his fetish, and that his actions show it.

I have spoken to him about his level of porn consumption, and he has told me that I am blowing it way out of proportion. According to him, he just likes looking at the images 'for the art style' to which I call bulllllshiiit. If he just liked looking at the images because of the 'art style' why is he only following accounts that posts images of the type of women he is attracted to? Why not art depicting males, or ANY other type of cartoons in general? It is hard to argue with him about this though, because many of the images he looks at aren't straight up hardcore porn, they are more sexy/risqué in nature.

Additionally, about a year ago he asked me to dress up as one of his favorite characters while we had sex, which was fun but now it is all he asks me about. Whenever we have sex he asks me to dress up as so-and-so, and it seems like he is only truly excited to have sex when I do dress up this way. He has purchased a lot of costumes for me which I rarely wear, which has led to some resentment on his end. He has asked, 'why don't you want to dress up today?' a lot, but honestly it takes a long time for me to get into the costume, and he is very much a perfectionist when it comes to the costumes so I don't want to do it very often. His costumes aren't just normal skirts and tops, but also consist of wigs, makeup and circle lenses, but he often wants me to dress up this way every weekend all day. It isn't comfortable for me and I also can't leave the house like this.

I feel like I have been quite reasonable and giving when it comes to his fetish, but now I feel like this fetish has taken over our entire relationship. Please any advice.

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