No, being Asian doesn’t make me submissive


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No, being Asian doesn’t make me submissive

It’s 2018 and yellow fever is still a thing?

As an Asian woman there's nothing more disappointing than realizing that the guy you thought was into you has yellow fever. That exact moment when you find out your partner dated three other Asian girls prior to you is infuriating and confusing as fuck.

Yellow fever, also known as "Asian fetish," is the never-ending epidemic that's made me lose faith in dating. There are even Tumblr pages and dating sites dedicated entirely to calling out creepy white dudes and finding Asian females (what the fuck).

But want to know what's worse than men fetishizing you for your race? Men fetishizing you for your race and being proud of it. These are usually the guys saying, "I don't understand why you're so upset, it's a compliment." I can't believe I have to explain this to people, but yellow fever is not and will never be a compliment. Let me break it down for those who don't understand — and for you Asian girls out there who need something to reference the next time you inevitably run into one of these assholes, feel free to send them this article.

Yellow fever is an outright, unabashed, objectification of a human being. By targeting prospective partners based on their race, you're classifying their worth based on an uncontrollable (and largely insignificant) element of their being. And to the people who don't get why I'd want to break up with a guy "just because he has yellow fever," I ask, "why the fuck would I want to stay with a crusty white dude who only values me for my race?"

Like most Asian women, I've been called "exotic" on more than one occasion, and in all honesty it took me a while to say something. At first I was scared and sad, thinking this must be the way things are, and that I'll always be targeted for being stereotypically "submissive," or "docile," or "better in bed." But for all of you Asian babes out there who know what I'm talking about and have faced these same objectifications, I'm here with you, and I feel your anger and frustration. But instead of letting these creepy asshole guys make you feel scared or hopeless, put an end to this blatant yellow fever bullshit and put your foot down. It's 2018 after all.