This idiot broke up with a woman because he thought her cancer was contagious…
Male stupidity is TRULY boundless
by Katie Way
Sarah* is a skin cancer survivor, which means that she's well equipped to survive bullshit from men… but she definitely shouldn't have to.
So when a guy she'd seen a couple of times asked to accompany her on doctor's appointments to make sure it was "safe to get physical" with her, she was pissed, and posted the conversation on Reddit.
It goes downhill so fast
The man in question opens up the conversation by stating that although Sarah is "hella sexy" and "very attractive," he is freaked out by the fact she used to have cancer, which he sneakily calls "the whole 'C' thing." Tactful!
She tries to reassure him that it's not a big deal, because she "can't change it," which is indisputably true.
Then he asks for an outside opinion…
He also asks to confirm that it's "safe for us to get physical" by going to a doctor's appointment with her, which is unbelievably invasive. He also hopes that Sarah is "not offended" by his very offensive suggestion. Classic.
And he won't take no for an answer
And bless her heart, Sarah really tries to explain to him that cancer is "not like a sexually transmitted disease," because it's not. The anonymous man reveals that he has never known anyone who had cancer, which is… obvious.
You'd think the person who had cancer would know more about cancer
Sarah told babe that the two of them met on a dating app, dated briefly last Spring, then stopped talking until recently, when this man asked for a "second chance."
Bear in mind that, according to her, they are both college educated adults. Because he still pulled this bullshit…
She even tries to provide him with online resources about cancer, but he tells her that "I need to hear it from a doctor, preferably yours." Okay, so we're completely distrusting the internet now? It's not like she went to Wikipedia!
'You need to be open about it if it affects the other person'
Sarah, understandably, was not feeling the doctor's appointment thing. So he tells her he understands that her cancer is a "sensitive subject," then insensitively persists in asking to meet her doctor or go to a doctor's appointment with her.
So she tells him that it's over, because duh
Don't worry, this story has a happy ending, because she blocked and deleted his ass. "Frankly, I don't need that in my life," she said.
Unfortunately, this isn't the only time Sarah has had trouble dating because of her medical history
"I have experienced people being weird about cancer before. I’ve had others who have not been able to deal with it and I get it," Sarah told babe. "It’s a scary concept, but this a first for me having to explain that it’s not contagious."
And it's not like she's undergoing treatment now — her cancer has been in remission for six and a half years.
"Dating as a survivor can be entertaining as sometimes the questions are a bit funny and soul crushing when they don’t want you because of something you have no control over," she said. But she doesn't let it stop her. "I'm not broken. I'm a survivor."
*Name changed to protect privacy.