I’ve got some shocking news for you people: Not all fat girls want to lose weight
Maybe I think I’m perfect
by Ari Bines
After news hit that people were upset over plus-size model Jordyn Woods' sponsored post with a weight loss company, I noticed another reason why people annoy the fuck out of me—they believe fat girls want to lose weight.
You can call me an "unhealthy" enabler all you want, but the only thing I'm trying to shed is your irrelevant opinion.
Some of us (hey guys!) actually (gasp) think that we're already hot. I know, right? And it's not just a physical thing, either. Being plus-sized gives me some serious advantages.
Here's why I'm not trying to lose anything but my last remaining fuck:
We take criticism better than anyone else
One reason I prefer to stay in size 22 denim is because no matter what my size is, I know I'll be judged — and I've developed the ability to suck it up and not care about even the most hurtful opinions.
no matter how attractive or unattractive, fat or slim, nice or stuck up you are, you'll always be judged wrongly by people, that's life
— bill mannell (@b_mannell) February 5, 2013
People who do decide to change their dietary habits have personal goals they want to achieve, and that can be great, but a lot of the time it's to prove other people wrong.
Khloe Kardashian's show Revenge Body is literally a televised program of people losing weight in order to get a reaction out of someone who's hurt them in the past. While that isn't the case for every person losing weight, it is a driving force for many who choose to shed the pounds. And that's stupid, I'm sorry.
When you physically have thicker skin, you learn to take everything with a grain of salt. People who have been shamed for their looks are almost always going to take the high road because they've already met rock bottom and clawed their way back up.
Some fat girls just enjoy being different
There's something empowering about being the underdog in mainstream media. Instagram had once deleted my censored nudes, but you could literally take yourself to see every inch of Kim K's glossy bod at this very second. Luckily, someone complained about Instagram's bad behavior and reinstated my boobs back on the feed.
I like being fat because my skinny ass friends & sis won't take my clothes like nope bitch it's to big for you put it back
— 🌸z_soer🌺 (@DaijanneRiches) February 20, 2018
There's never an ideal time to be different, and that's why girls have learned to embrace their own bodies now. We want to show the world something different than what they've been fed for decades.
By shutting down old misconceptions that you have to lose weight to be pretty, wanted or successful, we're able to inspire other generations. Just because something is considered "correct" by society, it doesn't mean we have to accept it.
At the end of the day, it's MY body and MY choice
It's a mantra typically applied to the fight for reproductive rights, but it's honestly pretty universal. Why do we never use this perspective when it comes to weight?
Those people who "just want to help" don't really care.
My fatness just makes them uncomfortable. And I'm okay with that.
— le gros bonnet 🦋 (@SimoneMariposa) February 29, 2016
I'm all for a woman doing what she wants with her body because it's ultimately her life.
Once you embrace your thighs, rolls and love handles, people feel the need to insert themselves into your life and criticize. They mock every #fatandproud, #effyourbeautystandards, and call you unhealthy and obese.
Maybe it's because people are so bored and unhappy with their lives that they want to assume everyone around them is miserable, too. Maybe they have too much time on their hands or maybe they just need an extra hour of therapy. But at the end of the day, I'm the one who has to live in this body every day. And I fucking love it.
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