Your Mercury sign reveals everything about your love life. Here’s what yours means
It is the ruling force of your love life
by Una Dabiero
I'll be honest with you guys: I spend a lot of time thinking about myself. I take every personality quiz I run into on Facebook, I stalk my own social media profiles, and I've spent a LOT of time figuring out my love language. But I think one of the best ways to discover your true self is through astrology. Like, think about it: This is an ancient science dedicated to self-exploration. We literally believed in Virgos vs. Pisces before we believed the Earth was spherical. It's insane.
But sadly, most people have only just dipped their toes into Astrology. You probably know your sun sign — the one that let's you read your daily horoscope on Snapchat every morning. But there's so many other things to know about yourself based on the stars. One of the most telling parts of your astrological self? Your Mercury sign.
What is a Mercury sign?
Your Mercury sign governs communication in your birth chart. It explains how you absorb information, analyze situations, and express yourself to others. Basically, your Mercury sign describes how you interact with the people around you — both internally and externally. It is powerful in how others perceive you, and dictates the success of your relationships.
How do you find your Mercury sign?
Take a second to calculate your natal chart with an online generator, like this one. You'll need the exact time your born, so whip out your iPhone and call your mom. You should call her anyway, you know. I don't care if she's a bitch. That woman BIRTHED you.
After you have your chart, you can find out who you really are. Here's a breakdown of what your Mercury sign says about you:
Mercury in Aries
You are a straight-to-the-point, matter-of-fact communicator with no time to spare anyone the truth. While some might think this is bitchy, others find it completely badass. You have no problem standing up for what you want, and you're often the one who propels relationships and friendships forward. You're a clear communicator with a logical outlook on issues, and you know how to craft an argument. If a guy can't match your quick mind, or if he's unwilling to lean in and commit himself to you, you have no issue cutting him off. You know you want a partner who has no problem saying they're into you. You're only prepared to be their one and only girl.
ADVICE?: Keep being confident in your ability to communicate your desires, but always keep the emotions of others in perspective. Just because you can kill with words doesn't mean you should. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in fire signs (Aries, Sagittarius, and Leo).
Mercury in Taurus
You spend most of your time in the present, focusing on how to improve your current life rather than letting your mind wander to things you regret or people you miss. You're entirely grounded in reality, only arguing or discussing your emotions when there's a logical problem you can fix. But beware: When you've conceptualized your perfect solution to a problem, you won't budge. You're stubborn like that. You're a dependable, clear communicator who friends and romantic partners can always lean on to give sage advice and to not blow up over small spats. You're incredibly lenient with people you love and soft with voicing your emotions, but when you really believe in something, you're willing to scream it from the rooftops.
ADVICE?: Keep using your problem-solving skills to come up with grounded solutions to your interpersonal problems, but don't worry so much about starting problems. Your emotions deserve a space in conversation, and people who really love you will agree. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn).
Mercury in Gemini
Since Mercury rules Gemini, you're considered a master of communication. You're able to understand situations from multiple perspectives, and you're incredibly perceptive to the emotions of others. In that way, you're able to bend others to your will in conversation. You're quick-witted and intuitive, able to craft arguments with the blink of an eye. People always feel listened to when you're involved in a conversation, and most people are agreeable when you change their mind. Partners find you being a social butterfly charming, and find your emotional intelligence endearing.
ADVICE?: There's nothing wrong with channeling your masterful communication in your everyday life and relationships, but be sure you never move into manipulating others. People who are close to you recognize when you're feigning emotion or making up arguments. Be careful to use your powers to move everyone along, rather than focusing on your desires all the time. A selfish communicator never wins in the end. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in air signs (Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius).
Mercury in Cancer
Mercury suffers in water signs, as Mercury is a planet of the air sign and water is air's opposite. While air tends to be light and discerning, water is deep and all-encompassing. For this reason, those with Mercury in Cancer struggle with clear and confident communication. While you have deep emotion that you have no issue expressing — often in unhealthy ways like angry bursts or hidden diaries buried under your pillow while your insides are burning — you struggle to clearly and logically communicate them to those around you. Your communication is lead by your heart, even if you don't always understand what your heart is saying. You work well with people who are patient and willing to coax your beautiful thoughts out of you, those who won't run away when you can't do anything but cry about the weight of your thoughts.
ADVICE?: Keep channeling your emotions in conversation. The humanity others experience in communication with you is something that makes you so magnetic. But work to express your emotions in healthy ways, and stop picking fights for no reason. No one wants to listen to an outburst, but plenty of people are willing to listen to a calm phone call. They all love you, I promise. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces).
Mercury in Leo
People with Mercury in Leo are bold. But unlike Aries Mercurys, who are unable to be discerning, Leo Mercurys are intensely charismatic. Their strong communication is backed up with social presence that can't be taught. And although they aren't the quickest at coming up with what they want to say, they're able to stumble through conversation with an ease most signs envy. You've always been likable and you have no issue finding friends and romantic interests, but you often find it hard to connect with people beyond the basics. You're great at getting a drink at a bar or getting a promotion, but it can be hard for you to find a soulmate. Your emotions are buried somewhere inside you and they're difficult for you to communicate. You're so scared of losing love. But, girl, you can't charm yourself out of being deeply upset or deeply in love.
ADVICE?: Keep using your dominating presence to streamline your success. You are intensely lovable and you deserve a spot at any table you want to sit at. But don't just focus on conquering social situations. Work towards understanding yourself. Don't be scared to spend time alone with your emotions, and work on really communicating how your feeling. It won't make you any less likable. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in fire signs (Aries, Sagittarius, and Leo).
Mercury in Virgo
Since Mercury is exalted in Virgo, you're considered the best communicator of the Zodiac. Virgo is an intensely practical sign, making you someone who is able to successfully carry out vacuum-sealed, quality communication. You're an efficient, effective, and empathetic communicator who people love to listen to. But at the same time, you are eccentric, carrying a creativity that allows you to come up with distinctive solutions that make everyone happy. You're witty, silly, and caring while still holding your ground on important issues. Friends and partners love your ability to share yourself and your thoughts so clearly, but hate to be on the receiving end of your wrath. You can knock someone down a notch with just a facial expression.
ADVICE?: Keep flexing your efficient communication style, but be sure to consider others opinions and ideas. Just because they aren't as good of communicators doesn't mean their thoughts are worth less than yours. Other people probably know more than you about a lot of things. And just because their knowledge isn't wrapped up with a nice bow doesn't mean they're dumb. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn).
Mercury in Libra
You're an easygoing communicator who does everything possible to avoid conflict. You are the chill friend, the fun girlfriend, and the family confidante. People love your ability to listen, your playful temperament, and your willingness to just let it go. You depend on humor to carry you through tough conversations, and telling a joke almost always helps you to mend a friendship. When it comes to actual arguments, you are sensitive and flexible. You are great at cooling people down and you rarely freak out. You're deeply emotional, but also deeply diplomatic. At the same time, you're never cold. Some people might hate that you're unwilling to sacrifice peace for a belief or relationship. But people who value you love your ability to keep everything in perspective.
ADVICE?: Keep up your empathetic communication style — it's hard to come by these days. But at the same time, don't sell your emotions short. It's ok to rock the boat every once and a while. If you feel strongly about something, say so. And never put up with people who treat you poorly. Life's too short. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in air signs (Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius).
Mercury in Scorpio
People with Mercury in Scorpio hate small talk. You believe that the best way to communicate with someone is to get to know them first. That means digging deep — asking them soul-searching questions, and finding their deepest fears. You aren't embarrassed to share anything about yourself, including your true emotions in the moment, and you expect the same kind of transparency from your friends and partners. You're wholly honest, intensely personal, and like to solve problems by flushing it out from every angle. It can be difficult for people to reciprocate, and you feel betrayed by people who don't understand your need to talk through everything. But those who match your style of communication will reach a higher understanding of human emotion, and will be rewarded with your internal self.
ADVICE?: Keep sharing yourself. Your humanity and willingness to dig deep is magnetic. But don't get frustrated by people who can't open up immediately. Everyone has a story to share, and someone isn't superficial because it takes them a while to become close friends with you. Being open doesn't make you morally superior. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces).
Mercury in Sagittarius
For people with Mercury in Sagittarius, communication is much more about the adventure than the destination. You like talking with others to explore a situation before you make a decision about it. You enjoy thought exercises, intellectual conversations, and people who challenge you. Some people think your need to argue makes you wishy-washy and difficult, but you never mean to stir the pot. You're just curious. You can be honest and clear when necessary, but if someone gives you an inch in the argument, you'll take the whole-ass mile. You are sarcastic, flexible, and thoughtful. People love that you will talk through things that have nothing to do with you just to give advice. And people love your willingness to change your mind once you've been proven wrong.
ADVICE?: Keep being thoughtful and curious with conversation, but know when it's time to stop. You've probably exasperated a few friends by playing Devil's Advocate. Keep that kind of thought exercise in only your closest circles. It makes you look like a bitch in casual conversation. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in fire signs (Aries, Sagittarius, and Leo).
Mercury in Capricorn
Almost all of your communication is goal-oriented. You aren't one to chat just for the fun of it. You prefer to speak with actions, and spend most of your time inside your own head. You aren't someone to be flowery to get ahead. You aren't someone to share too much. You're transparent and to-the-point. And people appreciate your frankness. You are always trying to achieve something with your energy, and that kind of drive is inspiring to those around you. You are grounded, disciplined, and able to command a room… if you absolutely must. You value friends and partners who are just as put together as you. You hate forgetfulness, flightiness, and people who are overly friendly. "Be real, or get out of my face!" is basically your fight song.
ADVICE?: Girl, keep getting yours. But realize that life is also about having fun. It's ok to have relationships that aren't transactional. Love and friendship are meaningful, and they can't always be calculated and measured. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn).
Mercury in Aquarius
Your mind is eccentric, unorganized, and eclectic. Your communication is led by this invisible map inside your head that allows you to draw connections between different experiences, ideas, and things you read in some book somewhere. And while that makes your thoughts beautiful, you can be difficult to follow in conversation. You are an unconventional communicator who takes a while to get to the point, but you are appreciated by people who understand the importance of the journey. You are best understood when you're able to write out your emotions, or when you're given a lot of time to discuss everything on your mind. The e-mail, work memo, and resume are not your friend. Your friends and romantic partners love you for your crazy ideas, your willingness to talk for hours, and your keen listening ear that never forgets.
ADVICE?: Keep channeling your creativity into meaningful relationships. But to navigate the professional world, get yourself a damn planner. Trust me, your mind doesn't need to be organized, but your life MUST be. You'll be so much less anxious if you ask for help staying on task every once in a while. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in air signs (Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius).
Mercury in Pisces
You are a dreamer who spends most of your internal dialogue considering the "what ifs" of life. Since your mind is so often in space, your external communication suffers a little bit. You have so many feelings and thoughts, you often don't know which ones to convey. But you don't mind — you would prefer to only share your guarded internal self with people who understand you on an intuitive level. You stumble in conversation and struggle with confrontation. You feel targeted by even the smallest remarks, because you have such a sensitive intuition and assume others do too. You are someone who communicates with most people in your life on only a superficial level, despite a deep understanding of everyone you come into contact with. Friends and partners who have seen the real you appreciate your creative thinking, but you are often considered ditzy by people who know you only casually.
ADVICE?: It's ok to be the dreamer. It's good to be thinking about all the ways your life can be made better. But no dream can come true unless you channel your thoughts into action. When you have strong thoughts on something, speak up! Nothing will ever happen if you're always stuck in your head. You're most compatible with people with their Mercury in water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces).
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