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If a guy doesn’t pay on the first date, you should ghost him
Honestly, he should Venmo you for your time
by Jenn Ficarra
Guys should pay for the first date. It might seem sexist, it might seem anti-feminist, but I don't give a fuck.
Guys should pay for the first date because it's the least they can do.
For starters, women make, on average, 79 cents for every dollar a man makes. That's about $10,800 less than a man a year. That's a serious chunk of change so already we're off to a bad start with this date. You want me to pay? Fine but we're getting well drinks and cheap beers. Oh, you wanted that craft beer from Fuckboy Brewery? Too damn bad.
Next, society tells men to be men. And part of that bullshit narrative is that women are weaker than men and more helpless and men should be the providers. So you want to be part of the patriarchy and go with society? Fine. But you're buying my martinis, Evan.
So yes, I expect him to pay for the first date. Not every date, I'm not a monster. But the first date? Yes. Besides, the cost of three gin and tonics is cheaper than the amount of money I spent putting together my lewk. Don't believe me?
On average women spend more money on clothes, makeup, hair products, perfume, shoes, lingerie, etc. Why? Because society is rigged and it also tells us we have to wear shoes, a bra, makeup, clothes, and smell nice. We may not buy these items exclusively for the date but we spent money on them, definitely more than Sean spent on the graphic T he wore to the date, and the least he could do is compensate by buying me a few drinks.
It costs more to be a woman and the emotional toll getting ready for a date takes on us is monetarily equivalent to the $12 you will spend on a cocktail. We're not asking for anything outrageous. We just want to, for once, feel a little special. We want to be able to offer to pay but have you be like "nah I got it." That's sexy.
Ultimately, do what you want. I'm just saying that if a guy is too cheap to buy one night of drinks for you then he's also probably cheap in the bedroom. And that's something I want no part of.
If he doesn't pay on the first date ghost his ass and find someone who will.