Being ‘thicc’ gets you Insta followers, but being ‘fat’ gets you bullied
Rihanna gets praised, I get shamed
by Ari Bines
After babe shared a promo video for this body positive column to its Instagram, the comments it received were…mixed. Most were positive and encouraging, but others suggested I discuss the dreaded d-word (diet), and some, of course, fat-shamed.
One girl commented, "I don't think her body is all that attractive." Good, because it's not for you to be hitting this cellulicious ass from the back any damn way! She's since been blocked, but her words definitely stayed with me — and it brought to my attention how people define an "attractive" plus-size body is in this shallow society.
Most thicc girls are just socially acceptable fat people
The thing about thicc women, is that they're not considered obese or overweight, and they come in all sizes—even the single digit ones. When speaking on what constitutes a woman of thick girl stature, I'm referring to women who are "slim-thick." Meaning, she's got a body with a fat ass, thick thighs, handful of boobs, but her waist is snatched as fuck!
maaaan I love a slim thick female! shit drive a youngin crazy 🙄
— Playaa (@KaceePlayaa) January 22, 2018
Plus-size model Iskra Lawrence is thicc, but not fat
Did you know it’s body confidence Day? Yup it’s a legit thing and something I’d love to see you be part of by using #perfectlyme (head over to @seventeen insta to watch my video explaining what it’s about) You’re all reading this because you’re on my page / following my lil space on here filled with squares of images and vids of my life. I ALWAYS want to you remember these are curated even though they are unretouched you can see the diff between the first two pics which are more “posed” and the last which Isn’t. I’d also love you to think about who and what you’re following online and whether you feel empowered or disempowered and really listen to that because you deserve to surround yourself irl and online with positivity. So have a look who you’re following and see if maybe you can follow more marginalised people who aren’t represented in the media and need their voices heard. Right so this is turning into me rambling on. But that’s just it, I’m not perfect I’ve said this for years and also it was the focus of my TED talk that the pursuit of perfection is only detrimental to your mental and physical health. How can there be a definition when everyone is different and that’s what is beautiful. So on body confidence day I want you to feel empowered by the fact you’re #perfectlyYOU and so is your bestie and grandma and fourth cousin twice removed. We are all here in these bodies which are our homes so let’s start celebrating that and valuing and appreciating them for all their magical capabilities and experiences that they allow us to have in this world. Ok ramble over ILYSM for reading this (if u read it all comment 💪 emoji lol)🙏🙏🙏💯💕🦄⭐️✨ #nomakeup #nophotoshop #yesimwearingasmallbikinibutnothatisntconsent
where’s the girls with brown eyes and thick thighs. let’s plan our wedding.
— Josh (@JoshxHolder) January 27, 2018
Amara La Negra, Afro-Latina singer
Wanna stay thick but get this waist & stomach snatched pic.twitter.com/hn6N2MLqNa
— F O R E V E R WILL❄️ (@JoellaShanice) January 30, 2018
Ashley Graham, supermodel
These are just some of the women who have inspired others across America to toss the size 0 aspiration into the trash, and to worship and embrace ass fat—so long as her stomach is flat.
Fat girls, though, get shamed and shunned
On the flip side, straight-up thicker women have nearly all of the same attributes as a slim-thick chick, but minus the tiny middle. While my waist is small, I still have a belly that I get insecure about. And that's where the lines between thick girl appraisal and fat-shaming blur. Because of a fucking tummy. Who would have thought that being picked last for school plays, receiving unnecessary teasing from kids, and being passed on for modeling gigs was all because I didn't have "the right look."
I always used to feel a wave of relief seeing another thick girl in the same room as me because it reassurred me that I wasn't totally out of place. But the minute she removed her jacket and revealed her rock-hard abs in a tight crop-top, I'd cover my belly with a nearby pillow so that I could quit trying to suck it all in and actually breathe normally.
While I thought we were making progress within the plus-size community, there's a huge segregation amongst slim-thick plus-size women and thick plus-size women with a stomach and other "misplaced fat."
— Kyle Trouble (@KyleTrouble) October 13, 2013
Gabriella Lascano, Fashion Nova brand ambassador
#FatShamingWeek Advice for fatties: eat less, no sweets, exercise, keep your opinions quiet until you're thin, avert your eyes near thin ppl
— Kanamit (@Kanamit2) October 13, 2013
Nicolette Mason, fashion blogger
I voted because I believe all our voices matter. Because I'm a (nasty) woman. Because I'm a first generation American. Because the country my family left would not guarantee me the same protections and freedoms. Because I'm queer. Because trans lives matter. Because black lives matter. Because all people, regardless of race, religion, gender, sexuality, class, or ability SHOULD have the same access and freedom, and we have a lot more progress to make. Because I care about our planet. Because I believe in science. Because I believe healthcare is a right, not a privilege. Because mental healthcare needs to be part of our broader conversations about healthcare. Because I believe individuals and their families should be able to make their own decisions about their bodies. Because I'm a survivor. Because love is love is love. Because it's 2016 and there should be no place for sexism, homophobia, transphobia, islamophobia, racism, ableism, or bigotry in our political discourse.
your wcw thinks she’s thicc. she just fat
— salsa 🇱🇧 (@salsaaldd) January 22, 2018
Essie Golden, influencer
"UR ONLY DOING THIS TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL BETTER" – Yes, I'll feel better if I don't see as many fatties on the street #FatShamingWeek
— Disapproving Bunny (@BunDisapproving) October 13, 2013
Fat-shaming may have been around for quite some time, but I'm getting fed up with constantly seeing all these so-called plus-size models rocking 6-pack abs, overpowering and misrepresenting us plus-size girls with actual love handles, back fat and a belly that you know you'll love cuddling at night. I'm not hating on my slim-thick girls, but maybe we need to redefine what thick and plus-size really mean when we're online shopping for our next one-night stand. Just saying.