I hate my mom! Here’s how to deal with your mom being a bitch


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I hate my mom! Here’s how to deal with your mom being a bitch

Not all moms are nice

Are you really stressed or frustrated because you spend most of your time at home thinking: 'OH MY GOD! I hate my mom!!!' Some moms are manipulative, annoying, or just plain mean. Honestly, hating your mom is totally normal. Everyone is annoyed with everyone in their life sometimes. Even their dogs. Sometimes they shit on the carpet, what can I say?

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BUT if your mom is being more than annoying, read further to determine if her actions are abuse. If they are, seek help immediately.

Here's how you can deal with realizing 'I hate my mom'.

Determine WHY you find yourself saying: 'I hate my mom'

Is it something specific she says or does that makes you hate her? Is it a pattern of behavior that you find annoying or mean? Try to pinpoint what you dislike about your mom. Do you think what your mom is doing might be abusive? Here is how to pinpoint if it's something serious like physical abuse, emotional abuse, and sexual abuse.

If you're can, try to tell her about what makes you uncomfortable

Who knows? Maybe what she's doing to annoy you can be handled by having an honest conversation with you. If you guys are arguing over something small, like something embarrassing she did at a party or some annoying rule she made for you, have an adult conversation with her. She loves you, and she'll understand that people get frustrated with each other.

If your mom is abusing you, use one of these resources to find help

There are tons of resources out there for kids and teens who are facing abuse at home. One helpful resource is the Domestic Violence Hotline, which has a phone hotline and an online chat available 24/7.

If she's not, but you're too scared to talk to her about her issues, take time to yourself to cool down

Chances are, this fight will blow over. Try to spend time alone to de-stress rather than worrying about what your mom is doing to annoy you. Meditation, writing out your feelings, or exercising are private and quiet ways to get your mind off whatever is bothering you.

And remember, you can always talk to someone about what's going on at home

If things are going bad with your mom and you're too worried about talking with her, you can always vent to your friends or your significant other. I promise you aren't bothering them. They love you.

If you think you are in a dangerous situation with your mother, try talking to a professional about any issues you're having at home.

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